How to overcome sexual incompatibility?
Psychologists have researched what can help overcome sexual incompatibility between spouses. An article on this was published in the Journal of Sex Research.
Sexual interest in a new partner is often high, but decreases over time. Priorities change, and small compatibility issues start to feel like big issues, but the energy that comes with a new relationship can be replaced with something else.
Stephanie Raposo of York University (Canada) and her colleagues decided to test which opposing beliefs help in practice. Some believe that maintaining a good sexual relationship is possible by working through problems and working through incompatibility together. Others argue that successful intimate relationships require an innate compatibility between two people.
Psychologists conducted a long-term study of 97 couples from different countries in which women felt insufficient sexual desire. Couples completed questionnaires at baseline and one year later. Since some people managed to separate during this year, the scientists finally received data on 66 pairs.
It turns out that women who suffer from a lack of sexual interest are more likely to believe that sexual compatibility is an inevitable outcome from the start. Conversely, those who believed in the possibility of working to solve problems experienced it to a lesser degree. All couples in general, regardless of beliefs, experienced an increase in their sex drive throughout the year.
Scientists conclude that fatalism in the matter of sexual problems is often counterproductive and leads to an increase in feelings of powerlessness, which leads to a stronger suppression of desire.
