The Secret(s) to Great Shower Sex

Shower sex—it’s a steamy fantasy that’s crossed your mind.

But with all the allure of bathing with bae, there are some inherent inconveniences—cramped quarters, slippery conditions, and the chance of an unexpected, lukewarm surprise. (I hope your mind is in the gutter, but I’m talking about the taste of warm soapy water.)

Sure, there’s more to bathroom boning than meets the eye. But navigating the logistics can be hard (in all the wrong ways), and worst-case scenarios can land you a trip to the ER.

With the right prep, though, shower sex can get you wet in more ways than one. So get ready to suds up and get down with my tips and tricks for your hottest, wettest, and sexiest sex yet.

1. Grip It Good: Shower sex safety 101 means stability. Secure your footing by installing non-slip bath mats, handy grab bars, or a bench for added stability.
2. Temperature Control: Find that Goldilocks zone of water temperature—not too hot, not too cold, but just right to keep the mood hot (but not so hot that you get lightheaded).
3. Lots of Lube: Water can wash away natural lubrication, so have a hydrating lube on hand for added ease and comfort.
4. Slow Going: Embrace the sensuality of the moment by taking your time and savoring each touch and movement as you get more comfortable with the space.
5. Optimal Angles: Choose positions that allow both partners to receive stimulation comfortably such as.

How-to: Stand facing each other with one partner’s back against the wall for support. Lift one leg to allow for deeper penetration.

How-to: Take the shower head in your hand, and direct the stream of water over your vulva and vagina. For partner play, have your partner direct the shower head for you! This can be done in the standing or sitting position, on a bench, edge of the tub, or the shower floor.

How-to: Have one partner sit on a shower bench or the edge of the tub while the other kneels in front for intimate contact.

How-to: Add a yoga-inspired twist to your shower play with both partners standing, one penetrating the other from behind. As in yoga’s forward fold, the penetrated partner bends over with a slight knee bend, folding the torso over the legs for a deeply satisfying experience. 

How to: Embrace the heat with your partner taking charge, lifting you mid-air as you lock legs around their waist. It’s a workout, but trust me, the payoff is fire. With water cascading around, this position screams sexy. And with eye

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