Bride slammed for ‘tacky’ and ‘cringe’ note to wedding guests ahead of the big day: ‘Horrible idea’
A bride-to-be has been ‘torn apart’ over a ‘tacky’ and ‘cringe’ note she sent out to guests who declined her wedding invitation or failed to RSVP on time.
The bride and groom decided to send out a ‘you will be missed’ card to prevent guests who forgot to RSVP from showing up unannounced on the wedding day expecting a seat.
‘We are so sorry you cannot make it,’ the card read.
‘You are receiving this to let you know that your name will not be among those attending the wedding. This is either because you declined the invitation or you did not RSVP on time. Either way you will be missed.’
But it was the next detail on the card that got everyone talking.
‘If you still want to send the couple a gift, there is still time,’ the couple said, which was printed in a larger font size.
The card ended with a link to the couple’s online wedding gift registry.
The bride pointed out the card had a medieval design because they were having a Lord of the Rings-themed wedding.
A bride-to-be has been ‘torn apart’ over a ‘tacky’ and ‘cringe’ card she sent out to guests who declined her wedding invitation or failed to RSVP on time
‘So I am sending this to people who did not RSVP (or declined the invite)… Should I word it differently/add anything? It feels pretty empty,’ she explained.
‘I added the gifts part because I was trying to fill space. We have a good number of people who have not RSVPed and multiple reminder texts have been sent out.
‘I just don’t want people showing up expecting a spot.’
Her post was re-shared on Reddit – with many taking particular issue with the bride and groom for still trying to get gifts from guests who can’t make the wedding.
‘This was just a horrible idea. Terrible. I’m getting a sinking ick feeling just seeing it,’ one said.
‘Nice try, but there’s no way to make this less tacky,’ another shared.
‘If the person invited didn’t think enough of the bride and groom to actually respond. I highly doubt they’re going to send them a gift. Either way it seems really tacky to send this out,’ one suggested.
‘OMG it’s basically, “So sorry you ghosted our party, no seat for you now! Please send a gift in your place, there’s plenty of room at the gift table”,’ another added.
The bride and groom sent out a ‘you will be missed’ card to prevent guests who forgot to RSVP from showing up unannounced on the wedding day expecting a seat (file image)
‘I was thinking they could shrink the card even further to nothing and not send this passive-aggressive travesty at all,’ one explained.
Many took particular issue with the couple’s choice of font and size.
‘It wouldn’t be too bad if the gift part was not in all caps, omg. On a side note, not tacky at all really, but I guess off-putting? I’d be LESS likely to send a gift,’ one said.
However, some defended the bride and groom’s card.
‘To be fair she clearly states that multiple reminders have been sent. At that point it’s entirely on the guest and it’s reasonable to take their silence as a no and clarify that,’ one explained.
‘I fully get them wanting to make it known that there won’t be space if someone didn’t RSVPed, but it really only needs to be more of a letter, not a notice,’ another said.
‘I see the appeal of notifying someone that they haven’t RSVP’ed so you aren’t expecting them but I’m not sure there is a polite way to do that,’ one added.
