The no-fail tests that PROVE your man is cheating. From an easy iPhone camera trick… to the specific sex move guaranteed to give him away: JANA HOCKING

Never underestimate the investigative powers of a woman whose spidey senses have been activated by something just a little bit shady in her man’s behavior.

Henry Betsey Jr from Florida learned this to his cost when he was exposed this week as a bigamist who married three women without bothering to get divorced from any of them.

He pleaded no contest to bigamy, was sentenced to probation and banned from dating apps – the shame! I’d have thrown him to the gators.

But what struck me most about this repeat groom was that he wasn’t brought down by a squad of detectives, he was caught by one of his wives. She knew something wasn’t right and followed her hunch all the way to the county marriage records… and those two other blushing brides.

It got me thinking about the lengths to which women will go to catch a cheating partner and the breadcrumbs guys unwittingly drop that lead to them being rumbled.

Word to the wise: sometimes it’s what he’s doing in your bed that tells you what he’s doing in someone else’s.

So, using my own experiences, my friends’ stories and the confessions of my social media followers, I’ve compiled the ultimate cheat sheet – all the tells, the tricks and the slip-ups that guarantee you’ll know if your man’s doing the dirty.

Cracking his code

Let’s face it: the phone is the first place most women look for evidence of infidelity. 

One friend of mine became obsessed with cracking her husband’s new passcode after he suddenly changed it. Never a good sign. 

Over brunch one day, she pretended to be taking a picture of her pancakes while filming him unlocking his phone. Later, she slowed the footage down and watched frame by frame until she had the code. 

Sure enough, she found a stash of topless photos from his ‘work wife’ on it. They’re now in the middle of a divorce.

Furtive Fitbits

One of my Instagram followers swears by keeping her partner’s Fitbit synced to hers. 

He thinks it’s because she’s competitive at the gym. She was really inspired by NFL Network reporter Jane Slater, who went viral after discovering her boyfriend’s affair this way.

She and her man had matching Fitbits. One night, when he was unaccounted for at 4am, his Fitbit recorded a sudden spike in heart rate and physical activity. Safe to say he hadn’t enrolled in an Orange Theory class, and he was soon her ex.

Photo Finish

The ‘recently deleted’ photo folder is an absolute goldmine because so many cheaters forget it exists.  

One woman wrote to me about tapping into it while her boyfriend was in the shower. 

‘It was like opening Pandora’s box,’ she said. ‘There were thirty short videos, all from the last month, of a woman in lingerie straddling him on the couch, close-ups of his… well, you know.’ 

What shocked her the most was that she recognized the woman – she worked in the café they went to every Saturday.

Gone but not forgotten

Another treasure trove guys forget about is their App Store purchase history. 

One reader told me she was helping her boyfriend download a budgeting app when she scrolled too far and found Tinder, OkCupid and something called Calculator+ in his purchased list. 

‘I’d never seen it before, so I downloaded it out of curiosity,’ she said. ‘When I finally got in, it was a vault full of porn and sex videos. Not just random porn either, videos of him having sex with someone else. One was clearly filmed in my bedroom. I could hear my own dog barking in the background.’

Twinning Tech

Sometimes the bust is more of an accident. 

A friend of mine once made a devastating discovery during moving day. After years together, she and her partner finally decided to move in. 

While he went to fetch more boxes, she unpacked his iPad which promptly synced with his iPhone. 

She watched as messages rolled in from an escort arranging a ‘quick roll in the hay.’ When he returned with the boxes, my friend handed him his iPad and told him he could pack his things right back into them.

Of course, not all clues are digital. Some of the biggest are hiding in plain sight.

Dirty laundry

A former male colleague of mine confessed why his marriage ended in divorce one night over a few drinks. 

His wife had come home from a girls’ trip to find fake tan on her bedsheets and a blonde hair extension in the shower. He had brought a one-night stand home and was too hungover to clean up the next day. 

That one cost him his house and their dog.

Cleaning up

Bathroom products are another give away. 

One reader swore her toothbrush bristles looked frayed after she’d been away for the weekend. She also noticed a bottle of micellar water make-up remover and moisturizer she didn’t own sitting on the vanity. 

A week later, she found out her boyfriend had brought a girl back from the gym to ‘freshen up’ before heading home.

Off brand

One male friend told me he got caught cheating after his wife spotted an unfamiliar brand of condoms in the glovebox. Even more damning was the fact they didn’t use them because she was on the pill. 

When she confronted him, he tried to claim they’d been in there ‘for years.’ She didn’t buy it.

Which reminds me of the time a reader confessed that she was the reason her parents got a divorce when she was a child. 

They were going on a car trip and she was strapped into the back when she noticed a ‘slimy, rubbery thing,’ down the side of her seat. She pulled it out and asked her parents what it was. Spoiler alert: It was a used condom.

Which brings me to the sexual clues – the ones you can’t ignore once you notice them.

Old dog, new tricks

If your oh-so-predictable bloke suddenly becomes ‘inventive’ in bed, beware. 

One reader told me that ‘out of nowhere’ her boyfriend of five years was flipping her into positions she’d never seen and using a ‘really specific oral technique’ that ‘wasn’t bad’ but also ‘wasn’t him.’

She said, ‘When I joked, “What porn did you learn this from?” he froze. Later I found out our “friendly” neighbor had taught him.’ 

Turns out she had been coming over on a regular basis (that intel came courtesy of good old neighborhood gossip).

Dry Spell

We can all agree that no sex at all is never a good sign, and a sudden cessation of services is a real give away. 

One reader told me her sex life dried up almost overnight. He was ‘too tired,’ or ‘too stressed,’ and yet he’d come home freshly showered every evening. 

The final straw was finding condoms in his suitcase. She said, ‘That told me everything I needed to know.’

Second-hand skimpies

Gifts are not always what they seem. If your man’s generous streak feels sus, don’t doubt your gut just because he put a bow on it. 

One woman wrote to me saying her husband suddenly started buying her lingerie –elaborate, expensive sets he’d never bought before. He insisted she wear it every time they had sex. She thought it was a fantasy thing until she saw screenshots on his phone of another woman wearing the exact same set. 

‘He’d clearly bought it and had her wear it first,’ she said.

Name check

Sometimes a guy might as well throw up his hands and ‘fess up because he basically already has. 

One married reader told me that her husband came home one night after ‘drinks with the boys’ absolutely buzzing. 

‘He was throwing me on the bed, kissing my neck, telling me I was the best he’d ever had,’ she said. ‘Halfway through, he called me by another woman’s name. He tried to pass it off as dirty talk, but I knew.’ 

The next morning she checked his work website and sure enough, there among the list of employees was a pretty blonde with the same ‘unique’ name that he had blurted out. It explained where all that energy had come from.

Bottom line, whether it’s hidden in his phone, tucked in his bathroom cabinet or concealed between his sheets, if your man is cheating, the clues will be there to find. You just have to be willing to look. 

And sure, the truth might sting, but it’s better than living a lie.