I blocked my friend after she sent me ‘tone deaf’ texts asking for a ‘quick’ favour – am I overreacting?
A grieving woman has told of how her ‘tone deaf’ friend sent her texts demanding she do her a ‘quick’ favour – despite being told that her cousin had just died.
The woman, 23, was bombarded with texts from her friend who suspected her boyfriend was cheating on her after discovering a random number on his smartwatch.
‘Girl do you think you can call this number for me? I’m wearing my boyfriend’s watch and this number keeps popping up on WhatsApp,’ the friend said.
‘It has a contact name but it says a man’s name and the way they’re talking sounds like it’s a girl so I just wanna see who it is.
‘You think you can do it and find out who it is?’
The text caught the woman off guard as she had just lost a family member.
‘Hi girl.. Uhh yikes I would but my cousin just died and my family and I are all here waiting for her body to be picked up. Sorry,’ she responded.
Stunned her friend responded, ‘OMG I’m so sorry for your loss.’
A grieving woman has told of how her ‘tone deaf’ friend sent her texts demanding she do her a ‘quick’ favour – despite being told that her cousin had just died
The woman thanked her friend for her condolences before politely asking how she was going.
But instead of showing any sympathy, her friend bluntly asked: ‘But can you call just for like 10 seconds and tell me who it sounds like? Please it’ll be quick.’
Reluctantly, she replied: ‘Ok I guess.’
Moments later she confirmed, ‘The person who answered was a female.’
Her friend began to spiral, saying: ‘Ughh bro do you know who it was or who it sounded like?’
However, the woman responded, ‘Girl IDK (I don’t know) I hung up right away plus your man and I don’t have any mutuals so I wouldn’t know sorry. But I’ll talk to you later.’
Her friend interjected: ‘Can you check if they have a pic on WhatsApp?’
The grieving woman replied: ‘I can’t sorry.’
However, her friend refused to back down, begging: ‘Please real quick or LMK (let me know) when you can.’
Her messages didn’t end there.
‘I just called but they didn’t pick up,’ she continued.
‘What did she say when she picked up??’
The text caught the woman off guard as she had just lost a family member. She ended up blocking her friend after these final text messages
The woman shared the awkward text exchange, explaining that she ended up blocking her friend after these final text messages.
‘Texts speak for themselves,’ she said.
‘This happened a while ago when we were 23, but I randomly remembered it and wanted to share because I’m pretty sure this is a unique experience.
‘I know I shouldn’t have called. If it was today I would’ve blocked automatically after the fourth text she sent.’
As she was grieving the loss of her cousin, she ended up blocking her friend on everything, including her email address, work number and even her mum.
Sharing more context about her cousin’s condition, she explained: ‘My cousin was on hospice. She had an energy surge the day prior so we should’ve known, but we thought it was a good sign.’
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Speaking about her now-former friend, she said they shared a mutual friend who eventually had to cut her off because she only ever contacted her when she needed a favour.
‘She basically would do the same to me,’ she said.
‘When we first started getting close, she wanted me to cyber stalk her ex to the point where I had to give her the passwords to my social media so she could leave me alone. Mind you we are all adults.
‘Needless to say the friendship was very short lived. I gave her three chances. I let her step all over me – that’s on me. But she is a little bonkers. I’ve never met anyone like her in my life.’
She asked the internet whether she was ‘overreacting’ after blocking her friend.
Her post was met with more than 150 comments, with one suggesting: ‘She really pulled out a “damn that’s crazy… Anyways” on you. Ditch her ASAP.’
‘The “damn that’s crazy… anyway” energy would’ve been bad enough on its own, but immediately pivoting back to trying to identify a random woman’s voice while you were dealing with a family emergency is another level of tone-deaf. Blocking her was the right call,’ another shared.
‘”Sorry for your loss BUT” means your feelings and emotions are being shoved aside for theirs. She needs to keep her toxic relationship to themselves,’ one revealed.
‘Exactly, that “sorry for your loss, BUT” came with a bulldozer attached. Grief is not the time to demand customer support from the person grieving,’ another added.
