Gypsy Rose Blanchard admits to stabbing headboard with a knife in jealous fury… as chilling video and recordings expose dark truth of her relationship with baby daddy before his death and the reason he slept with a gun

‘You are a danger to yourself and others around you.’

That was the chilling message Ken Urker texted his then-fiancée Gypsy-Rose Blanchard after she took a kitchen knife to the headboard of their bed during a drunken, jealous rage while he was out of the house last year.

In a shocking call Blanchard made to Amelia Bird, a friend who remains behind bars, the former felon confessed in great detail how she became enraged after finding a card Urker allegedly wrote to his ex-girlfriend, per a recording the Daily Mail obtained.

The eye-opening glimpse into the former couple’s relationship comes to light just days after 34-year-old Urker was tragically found dead. Police are still investigating his cause of death and no one has been criminally charged.

Meanwhile, Blanchard – who was convicted in 2016 of second-degree murder for the death of her mother, Claudine ‘Dee Dee’ Blanchard and released in December 2023 – has been publicly speculating that Urker died of an apparent drug overdose due to cyberbullying. 

But such claims have angered some members of the Urker family.

‘The narrative being pushed is suicide, and that is a very hurtful narrative to the family and to anybody who loved him,’ Urker’s sister Autumn told the Daily Mail this week. ‘I’m trying to respect my brother and give him dignity. That’s why I’m being open, because that’s not fair to him.’ 

In an exclusive interview, a heartbroken Autumn, 31, said she wanted to expose what Blanchard, 35, is really like behind closed doors because she wants to protect her 1-year-old niece, Aurora, and bring awareness to the ‘targeted attacks’ her family has dealt with.

Her outspoken stance is at odds with that of some family members. Relatives invited Blanchard to Urker’s viewing and upcoming funeral, but the sister claimed they did so out of fear that any bad blood could impede their access to Aurora. 

‘When I spoke with my mother, she was in tears telling me that we have to be nice to Gypsy or she won’t let her see Aurora,’ Autumn told us. ‘My mom is a very forgiving person and I’m just not at that stage right now.’

The Daily Mail has contacted Urker’s mother, Raina Williams, for comment. 

Urker’s sister said she regrets not making it to the viewing on time – though she said her ‘goodbyes’ from the parking lot, but she will ‘absolutely’ be at her brother’s funeral and hopes that her anger subsides.

Still, Autumn said there is a lot of pain and heartache for her to overcome before she can make amends with Blanchard, whom she blames for the public scrutiny that her brother was forced to endure.

‘He had to sleep with a gun every night,’ she said. 

The Daily Mail has reviewed texts that Autumn said were from her brother and showed the now-deceased father-of-one confessing that he carried a weapon due to ‘death threats’ and getting ‘doxxed.’

Autumn clarified that her brother didn’t carry a gun because he thought Blanchard would harm him – but rather because of the relentless trolls who mercilessly spewed online vitriol.

Autumn detailed how the internet backlash increased in recent weeks due to newly leaked prison phone calls between Urker and Blanchard. ‘He was quite humiliated with some of the phone calls that had come out,’ she claimed.

The Daily Mail obtained logs for thousands of calls Blanchard made to Urker as well as other pen pals during her prison stint between 2016 and 2023. We also reviewed logs for calls she made once she was out of prison to Bird, who is currently still serving her own murder sentence.

In the aforementioned conversation which took place in September 2025, Blanchard confided in her incarcerated friend about an explosive fight between her and Urker.

‘I drank vodka, tequila, rum and whiskey,’ she said while explaining she had gone out to blow off steam after finding a romantic card that Urker allegedly wrote to his ex.

Once she returned to her and Urker’s house, Blanchard said on the call: ‘I go grab a knife in the kitchen, and I go to that headboard, and I stab the motherf**ing headboard and I carve “w***e” in the headboard.’

Urker was not home at the time so she said she left him a note that said ‘sleep with your “one and only,” G,’ adding: ‘I smashed a picture frame of us on the ground, glass went everywhere and all the prison letters that we wrote back and forth, I threw them up in the air like money.’ 

Continuing her path of destruction, Blanchard said she ‘took a pair of scissors’ and cut up a blanket, fired off angry texts and then ran off to her parents’ place while ‘drunk as f**k.’

The Daily Mail obtained video footage of Blanchard shouting expletives while shredding a blanket and recording herself. In the clip, she can be heard yelling through tears: ‘This is how I feel about you! Lies, lies, lies! …. F**k you!’

Blanchard told her incarcerated pal that once Urker arrived and saw what she had done, he told her: ‘I took pictures of you stabbing the headboard, and the broken glass… I’m filing for sole custody. You are not allowed around Aurora unsupervised.’ 

‘There are people close to me that are, like, “You scared the f**k out of him. You know what you were in prison for”… but because of my history, it freaks people out. Let’s just be real. It freaks people out,’ Blanchard admitted. 

On the call, she expressed regret for her disturbing actions, jealous tendencies – as she had often accused Urker of cheating in the past – and said she was attempting to get professional help but did not know where she and Urker stood.

Autumn told the Daily Mail that Blanchard and her brother reconciled after that volatile fight and that she didn’t personally learn about the headboard incident until February.

‘I did get nervous and I went off and I was like, “What are we going to do about this? Why are we ignoring it?” And my mom’s just like, “Oh, the cops said that there was nothing they could do,”‘ Autumn claimed. 

The Daily Mail contacted the Lafourche Parish Sheriff’s Office, who are investigating Urker’s death. A public information officer said that while they are aware of the headboard incident, they do not have record of anyone reporting it to them last year. 

However, the officer also confirmed that if another jurisdiction had been contacted, charges would not be filed as no individuals were harmed, only personal property.

Autumn told the Daily Mail that when she approached her brother about Blanchard’s outburst, she warned him: ‘That’s dangerous, Kenan, and it’s going to escalate. That’s what her pattern is.’

‘And I was just worried about him,’ she added, claiming Urker brushed it off and said, ‘This is old’ – since nearly six months had gone by.

‘I just fell on deaf ears. I was the problem,’ she said.

Concerned over what may happen next, Autumn said she exposed Blanchard on social media, which only caused a bigger rift between her and her older brother.

However, when an anonymous blogger started to leak Blanchard’s prison calls online, Autumn said Urker finally started to pull away from the mother of his child.

She said they eventually split due to ‘a combination of things,’ including a disagreement over his dog Parker. She said Urker was just ‘fed up and overwhelmed.’

‘He said he was done, and then he started listening to [the prison] calls, and he was really done,’ Autumn claimed.

Though Urker decided to take some time apart from Blanchard amid all of their turmoil, he allegedly didn’t want to separate his ex from his daughter ‘in totality.’

‘He just wanted to keep custody so that he could keep her safe,’ Autumn claimed. ‘He just didn’t trust [Blanchard] to have [Aurora] by herself. He just didn’t trust her.’

Autumn claimed that her older brother confided in her and some friends about the stressful situation he was dealing with, but she does not believe that he reached a low enough point to ever consider ending his life.

She said when they spoke over the phone the night before his 34th birthday, hours before he died, he made plans to check in with loved ones the following day.

‘I told him that the kids were going to call him on FaceTime to wish him a happy birthday later and he’s like, “Alright, have them call me,”‘ Autumn said.

‘I don’t think he would ever do this to Aurora or my mother, and the family doesn’t think he did this on purpose, either.’

Autumn also denied that Urker struggled with substance abuse issues, though she recognized that he liked to drink alcohol on occasion and perhaps dabbled in drug use on a recreational basis.

‘Maybe he was in a down mood and he’s like, “I’m going to do this one time or this one day because it’s my birthday and to hell with it,” and maybe he either did something that … his body didn’t have this tolerance or he got ahold of something that was laced with fentanyl and obviously that would be an accident,’ she speculated.

A source, who was friends with both Urker and Blanchard, told the Daily Mail: ‘I do not believe he would ever take his own life. He loved Aurora too much.’

Urker’s body was found at his Louisiana home on October 1 with syringes, a spoon, a holstered handgun and a ‘brown powdery substance’ nearby, according to police. However, his official toxicology and autopsy report is still pending.

Autumn said that she and other family members are cooperating with the Lafourche Parish Sheriff’s Office’s active investigation into her brother’s death, which the Daily Mail confirmed via a public information officer is ongoing. 

Autumn claimed she was told that police said that ‘because of who [Blanchard] is, they’re not leaving any stone unturned. They’re going to check everything.’

Despite their ongoing feud, Autumn said she supports Blanchard’s petition to create ‘Kenan’s Law,’ which the Life After Lockup alum started in her late ex’s honor in an effort to end cyberbullying. 

‘I think it’s a beautiful idea,’ Autumn admitted before pointing out that she thinks ‘it’s a slap in the face for Gypsy to be the one doing it.’ She then bashed Blanchard’s decision to use Aurora’s pic in the petition, adding: ‘I’m just angry at her.’

In a tribute to Urker the day after he died, Blanchard wrote on Instagram: ‘You will always be my greatest love story. You will be remembered and loved forever.’

The Daily Mail has contacted representatives for Blanchard for comment. 

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