Neighbour feud is sparked after stranger leaves foul fat-shaming note for woman – and sticks it to her apartment with used chewing gum

A handwritten note left outside an apartment complex has sparked widespread backlash after its aggressive and deeply personal message was shared online.

The note, which was reportedly directed at a neighbour, quickly went viral after being posted to Reddit because of the ‘unacceptable’ language used.

‘To the fat b***h who pushed herself into my car. Next time be more careful,’ the note, which was stuck to the wall with used chewing gum, read.

‘You shook my car and almost gave me a concussion. I’m sorry being so fat makes it difficult for you to fit through narrow spaces. 

‘With that bump you pushed my car to the other side. Also as you were rolling up the stairs I could feel the whole street shake. I understand you being fat and miserable makes you act out of control. Try starving yourself b***h.’

While disputes over cars and shared spaces are common in apartment living, many said this crossed a clear line.

‘It’s ridiculous how some people act like it’s okay to leave this kind of note just because someone touched someone else’s car,’ one person wrote.

Others were shocked at how such a simple act could spark such fury in someone.

‘Walking past a car and causing it to sway from movement isn’t the same as someone hitting it,’ another added.

For many, the issue wasn’t the complaint itself, but how quickly it turned personal.

The incident has struck a chord as Australians increasingly navigate high-density living, where small frustrations can quickly build.

From parking disputes to noise complaints, shared spaces often bring strangers into close contact – sometimes with little room for patience.

But experts say the way people respond to these tensions matters.

Rather than resolving issues, aggressive or abusive behaviour can escalate situations and create lasting hostility within communities.

Some commenters suggested the note said more about the person who wrote it than its intended target.

‘People like this just love to project their misery onto others,’ one wrote.

‘People who are that miserable do not have happy or well adjusted lives,’ another added.

While the note has been widely condemned, it also highlights a broader issue around how easily everyday frustrations can turn into personal attacks – particularly in an age where venting, both offline and online, has become more extreme.

In a cost-of-living climate where stress levels are already high, small inconveniences can feel amplified. 

But as many pointed out, that doesn’t justify cruelty.

For most, the takeaway was simple: a moment of irritation doesn’t need to become something much bigger – and certainly not something hurtful.