Woman, 28, who refused to send her 95-year-old grandmother to a care home builds her a £70,000 annexe in the family’s back garden

A woman who refused to send her 95-year-old grandmother to a care home has revealed how she built her a £70,000 annexe in the family’s garden instead. 

Becky Curd, 28, chose to create a purpose-built home for her beloved grandmother, Patricia Curd as she was struggling to maintain the three-bedroom house she had lived alone in since the death of her husband Peter 37 years earlier, aged 66.

Now Patricia has her own bedroom, bathroom, kitchenette and living room just 60ft from her family’s front door.

Becky, meanwhile, believes that the slightly unusual set-up has brought them even closer, with Patricia often popping in two or three times a day for cups of tea, chats and the all-important brandy and sweet treat.

The arrangement means Patricia can maintain her independence while Becky and her parents, Chris, 70, and Nicky, 61, are always nearby if she needs them.

‘It was my dad’s idea,’ Becky, from Kent, said – revealing that the annexe took around 12 wees to build and cost approximately £70,000. 

‘She lost my grandad 37 years ago and the three bedroom house was becoming too much for her. Grandma was struggling with cleaning and maintenance costs.

‘Luckily we have a long garden and had the space so we chatted through the idea and she was really excited.’

Becky explained that while some may be surprised by the decision, having her grandmother so close by gives her ‘peace of mind’ and she feels strongly that it is ‘the best decision we ever made’. 

‘Grandma is witty, kind, so grateful for everything we do and sings ‘I’m a lucky lady’ to me most days,’ she said. 

‘My favourite thing is the peace of mind knowing she’s safe and enjoying life.’

Becky grew up incredibly close to Patricia, who worked as a hairdresser before later becoming a housekeeper.

During her childhood, Patricia would visit the family almost every weekend, with the pair baking, skipping in the garden and doing Becky’s make-up together.

‘We’ve always had a really special relationship, but having her living in the garden means I get to see her every day and we have so much more time together,’ said Becky. 

‘It’s the little things I love the most like taking her breakfast, sitting having a drink, having a chat or hearing her funny stories.

‘We’ve created so many little routines and memories that I’ll always treasure, and I feel really lucky to have this time with her.’

When Patricia first moved in, she remained largely independent, cooking, cleaning and looking after herself.

But as her health and mobility have declined in recent years, having her just yards away has allowed the family to easily provide more support.

Becky said: ‘Me or my mum will wake grandma up and help her get dressed. We then sort out breakfast which is either porridge or chocolate brioche and of course a cup or tea.

‘At lunchtime, my dad will take up lunch and tea and then again dinner. In the evening. one of us will go and spend time with her and help her get ready for bed.

‘Not forgetting the important Brandy and sweet treat.’

Becky noted that, most importantly for her, the arrangement has meant Patricia can avoid moving into a care home.

‘The only other option would be a care home, which is something she’s always said she doesn’t want to happen,’ she added. 

‘Grandma always tells me she wants me to take over her annexe when the time comes, but that I should wait my turn.’

Becky has now recommended that other families should consider creating a similar arrangement if they have the space to facilitate it. 

She added: ‘The little everyday moments that make having her next door so special are hearing her tell us how lucky she is, how grateful she is and delivering her nighttime sweet treat and Brandy.

‘If you have the space, go for it. It’s not for everyone but it means she can enjoy the rest of her days in a familiar environment with her family around her.

‘This has been invaluable.’