I ended things with a girl over text after realising I wasn’t attracted to her. Now I feel awful
A single man has ended things with a woman over text after three dates – but her blunt response left him stumped.
The man said he decided to let his date down gently after realising he wasn’t physically attracted to her.
‘I’ve really enjoyed getting to know you; you’ve been amazing to spend time with. I think you’re a wonderful person, but I don’t feel a romantic connection,’ he texted.
Moments later, she replied: ‘Is it because I’m not hot enough?’
Stunned by her response, the man said he was torn over whether to tell her the brutal truth or just ‘block’ her number.
‘I just ended things over text with a girl I’ve been on three dates with because of a lack of physical attraction,’ he explained.
‘Now I feel like a huge a**h***. Do I answer honestly? Do I try to dodge the question?’
The man said he decided to let his date down gently after realising he wasn’t physically attracted to her. Her blunt reply left him stumped
His post was met with more than 800 comments, with many urging him to ‘never tell her the truth’ about her appearance.
‘Never answer a trap question about physical attraction with brutal honesty. Stick to your guns, tell her that romantic chemistry just wasn’t there and leave it at that,’ one suggested.
‘Would you want a girl who broke it off early with you tell you to your face that the reason why she didn’t want to continue things with you was because you’re not hot enough? How would that make you feel?’ another pointed out.
‘Just say you’re not feeling it. Telling someone they’re not attractive to you is unkind,’ one person explained.
‘A beautiful lie is better than an ugly truth sometimes,’ another added, laughing.
A single man has ended things with a woman over text after three dates – but her blunt response left him stumped (stock image)
Meanwhile, others suggested the man should give himself more time to see if his feelings for the woman would grow.
‘You are not a huge a**h*** but really, it took you three dates to find out you are not physically attracted to her? I would just say, “Sorry I didn’t feel the spark” and “good luck”,’ one shared.
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However, the man said he knew instantly that his feelings weren’t going to change after he ‘tried to give it a chance for the attraction to grow’.
‘I’ve been head over heels for girls before from the get-go and it really hits differently,’ he explained.
‘It’s not fair for the both of us. Nobody should be in a relationship where you feel meh about your partner or your partner feels meh about you.’
